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Churchill said, those who fail to learn from history are
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condemned to repeat it. Kevin helen N believes that certainly
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applies to business. Welcome to Winning Business Radio here at
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W four CY Radio. That's W four cy dot com
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and now your host, Kevin helen N.
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Thanks everybody for joining in today. I am Kevin Hallanan
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and welcome back to Winning Business TV and Radio on
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We are there. That's YouTube. iHeartRadio, Spotify, Apple, Google, etc.
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The list goes on the mission of winning business radio
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and TV, as regular viewers and listeners know, is to
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offer insights and advice to help people avoid the mistakes
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of others, right to learn best practices. Those are the
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I like to say, the how tos, the what tos,
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the what not tos, to be challenged and hopefully to
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be inspired by the successes of others. Consultants, coaches, advisors, authors,
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founders and olders, owners excuse me, entrepreneurs, people with expertise.
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But of course, virtually every successful person I've ever had
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a chance to talk to has said some form of
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failure in their lives, career lives, and careers, some small,
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some larger. So listen. While we all have to get
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our skin once in a while, every week, I say,
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I'm driven to keep those scrapes from needing major surgery.
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Let's endeavor to learn from history so we don't repeat it.
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I've spent a better part of my career equipping businesses
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to grow from solopreneurs to small and medium sized companies
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all the way to the fortune fifty. I've seen some
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of those companies win, and to varying degrees, I've seen
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some fail I've had the opportunity to rub elbows with
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some of the highest performing people around in some probably
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should have found other professions. In my own businesses, I've
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had lots of lots of success, but we're some failures too,
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and I like to think I've learned a lot from
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those experiences. So, yeah, you're going to hear from me
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my opinions and insights, because anybody who knows me, right, Tim,
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we'll tell you I have a hard time staying quiet.
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But more importantly, together we'll hear from experts, those consultants, coaches, advisors, authors,
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founders and owners and entrepreneurs. Today, my guest is Tim
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Hassett Sally. Old friend. Tim Hassett Sally two time award
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winning author of Strike, two Year Out and Samsara Interrupted.
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Here's his bio. Tim Hassett Sally was born in nineteen
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sixty in rural northeastern Connecticut. He received his BA in
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psychology and music from Providence College and earned his graduate
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degrees in counseling from Bridgewater State University. For many years,
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he maintained a private psychotherapy practice counseling violent, excuse me,
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violent and Abusive Men. After publishing his first novel, Strike
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two Year Out, Tim received the twenty twenty Doctor Adrian
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Tinsley Award for Achievement in the Arts. His second novel,
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Samsara Interrupted, was published in twenty twenty four. Both novels
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have received many excellent reviews. Tim is married and has
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three adult children and three grandchildren. Hear about them. He's
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a sprint triathlete, an avid tennis player and plays the
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drums in his spare time. He's an underachiever. Tim is
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currently the director of Revenue Development at the Workers Compensation
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Research Institute. He's held leadership positions for over thirty five
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years within the workers' compensation and disability management industry. In addition,
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Tim was an adjunct faculty member of the Counseling Department
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of the Graduate School of Education at Bridgewater State University.
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Tim has presented it in many conferences and institutions, including
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National comp International Claim Association, ARKANSAW. I can say that
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Arkansaw Self Insurance Association, New England Claim Association. The list
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goes on several colleges and universities. Tim welcome to Winning
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Business Radio.
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Thank you very much. Kevin, glad to be here.
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I'm glad you are, and I appreciate I know how
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busy you are. I appreciate you taking the time. So
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we're going to talk a bit about business, and we're
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certainly going to talk about your books a lot. But first,
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tell us about your family.
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Well, they're all growing, with the ones that are growing
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the most right now with the grandkids.
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Everybody else is stable but great.
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I get three great adult children and they're all found
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wonderful partners in life and three growing grandkids.
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Nice.
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Nice, does your wife work or had a career of
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what does she do?
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Or she's a retired French teacher? Oh wow, Iol retired
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as soon as the first grand son was born.
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Nice. She's not really tired then, right, she's.
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Been she shifted. Yeah.
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So you grew up in rural, as you like to say,
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rural northeastern Connecticut. Tell us the town and what it
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was like to grow up there.
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So I grew up in a town called Ellington, Connecticut,
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and you know, it was mostly cows and tobacco.
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Uh and uh.
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I just had the opportunity to drive through there about
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a month ago, and I was just shocked at how
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much development there was, and so many. Growing up you
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could see corn forever and ever and ever, corn corn,
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corn cows. And then I actually picked tobacco as a teenager.
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And you know, I think most of that has gone now.
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Yeah, I was gonna ask, Yeah, most of that's in
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the Carolina's it's that's still a shrinking business, but it's interesting.
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One of the good to Great companies in Jim Collins
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book To Great was a tobacco company. Believe it or not.
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Yeah, we we were into Connecticut broadly cigar tobacco. We
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the rappers that are still used today, the Connecticut seed.
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If you get a real good quality cigar, you might
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see it as Connecticut rapper or Connecticut seed.
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So it was. It was quite a business. It's a
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terrible job to have.
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It's one of those jobs you have when you're before
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you go off to college and you remind you that
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you really want.
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To be in don't want to do that? Yeah, mine.
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Mine was working in a meat room in a grocery store,
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a family run, two location grocery store. And it was
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dirty and gross. You went home smelling all day.
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All the time, and the dogs follow you home.
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They I didn't have that happen, but I was surprised
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it never did. What were your early interests.
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Uh, I would say baseball and uh riding bikes and fishing.
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I mean it was in that regard.
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That was a great place to grow up because we
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did plenty of all of that. And uh, you know,
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I had a lot of kids in the family, and
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so we were not inside the house very mud.
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We were out.
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If we were in the house, my mother always said,
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I'll find something for you to do.
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It wasn't what you'd want to do.
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My mother would always say. And I heard a comedian
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talking about it, Get out of the house, go outside.
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That doesn't happen as much anymore. And when did you
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get into music and start playing the drums?
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So I started playing drums when I was ten years old,
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and I graduated from hitting the pots and pans and
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my metal lunch bus nice my father showed up with
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a nineteen thirties vintage drum set, a big band type
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of drum set, and I took private lessons after that,
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and I drummed all through high school and college and
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even right up until the pandemic. I was playing in
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a band.
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That's awesome. That's awesome. You may know. For full disclosure,
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Tim and I have known each other for twenty years.
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Of twenty something years. We used to hang out in
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the same networking organizations and we did a little work together.
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So I played trumpet. If you may recall, I was
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telling people today watching the inauguration a little bit that
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I marched in Reagan's eighty one parade because I was
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at the UMSS. I was at UMass in the mini
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man marching mad. So that was cold, but a ton
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of ton of fun. Pretty pretty historic. Yeah, do you
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play other instruments?
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Well, I was a music major, so you know, I
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had to learn piano. I'm a terrible piano player, but
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I play a little flute and I play some guitar
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as well.
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Nice. So you're you're the guy they went in the band.
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They won't give me a microphone. They don't want me
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to sink, so I'll just I'll just sit in the
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back and play the drums.
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So what made you decide to go to Providence College
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and to major in psychology?
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Well, the major in psychology part for me. If you
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remember Bob Newhart in his first I Do I Do
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Love that show, I loved it too. He was he
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was a funny psychologist and it seemed like he was
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having a great time.
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And I said, that's what comedy routines is. He's one
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of my favorites because he would do that one side converse,
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which was part of different bits that he would do,
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but he would do it perfectly.
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Sorry, that was so that was kind of what first
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got me interested in psychology. And Providence College was one
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of these situations where when I was about junior high
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maybe just going into freshman year, Province College basketball was
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really big and Erdi Gregorio was there. They went to
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the final four, and that really put him on the
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map for me. And I had one really good teacher
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in high school who had gone to Providence, and you know,
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I think that impacted me that, you know, smart people
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could go there and maybe you.
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Come out smart. I don't know. I just but they
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accepted me, and so I said, let's go.
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Yeah, that's what it was for me, and you mass,
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they took me in. Let's go. So I want to
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ask about this because it must have been. As I
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hear it, it sounds like it was very challenging that
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you had a private practice specializing in violent and abuse
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of men. How to end were probably referred to you
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by I don't know, I'm just envisioning courts or family
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or somebody, right.
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Sure, sure, So a lot of a lot of them
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were referred by the courts, by probation officers. Also, some
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were referred by the women's center. I was the only
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male employee for a while at the Celshore Women's Center,
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and so I would get the abusive spouse of someone
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who might have been in the Women's Center seeking treatment
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as a victim, and it was a it's a heavy subject,
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and it's you know, I think that's something that when
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you're talking to you aspiring therapists really talk to them
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about how to you know, compartmentalize your your emotions from theirs.
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And my professors used to say, it's not your problem,
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it's their problem. You're just there to help them with
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their problem. But it is difficult to make that transition
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from talking about some really really heavy things and then
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literally fifteen minutes later have to be in your house
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being a husband and a father. So I think the
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danger is is when you compartmentalize that and keep the
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emotion the terrible emotions that you just heard, the terrible
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circumstances to keep that out of your head. You're also
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at the same time risking keeping your own emotions dampened.
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And I think it takes.
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A lot of work to try to be in touch
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with your emotions, especially as a man, and to have
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a normal life while you just listen to some really
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terrible stuff.
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I've always shoard that most therapists have a therapist. Is
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that the case?
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Yeah, I think they do or should yes, yeah, yeah.
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So I normally ask what your most important lesson learned,
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and you just explained it, you know, a couple minutes ago.
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So thanks for that. And then you've spent many years
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in business development, particularly in and around insurance and the
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social security niche how did that come about, because it's
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been mental welly something year.
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Yeah, So I started as I was as a counselor,
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a vocational counselor in the business and working with people
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who were out of work and wanting to get back
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to work and that kind of you know. We it
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was at a time when in the industry when there